Stop asking “Any feedback?” Here’s what to say instead
Have you ever asked someone for feedback and walked away with… nothing useful?
Maybe you got a vague “You’re doing great!” or the dreaded “Just keep it up.” Nice to hear, sure, but not exactly actionable. Or maybe you received a laundry list of “improvements” that felt more like criticism than support.
Here’s the thing: feedback isn’t just about what others say but about how you ask.
Most people default to: “Do you have any feedback for me?” It’s an open invitation, but it’s also overwhelming. It puts the burden on the other person to figure out what to comment on. No wonder we get vague or unhelpful answers.
Instead, you can guide the conversation. When you frame your request with intention, you invite feedback that’s specific, balanced, and actually helps you grow.
Here are three simple templates you can start using right away:
1️⃣ For clarity:
“Was there any part of my presentation that felt unclear or confusing?”
(This gets you focused input instead of broad strokes.)
2️⃣ For strengths:
“What’s one thing I did particularly well that I should continue doing?”
(Because it’s just as important to know what to keep as what to change.)
3️⃣ For growth:
“If you were in my role, what’s one thing you’d do differently?”
(This shifts the perspective and gives you practical insight.)
Notice how each one is narrow, actionable, and easy to respond to. You’re no longer asking for “feedback” in the abstract. Instead, you’re making it simple for someone to help you get better.
So the next time you’re preparing for a review, leading a meeting, or wrapping up a project, try swapping out “Any feedback?” for a more intentional ask. You might be surprised at how much richer—and more usable—the responses become.
What’s one area you’d like clearer feedback on this week?
Until next time…
Mal
Founder, The Ideas Accelerator
Helping you grow your career with strategic insight and smarter tools.