Ask for stretch projects without feeling awkward or pushy
Few phrases make professionals squirm like “self-advocacy.”
We all know we’re supposed to ask for opportunities that stretch us or seek out mentors who can guide us. But in practice? It often feels uncomfortable. You don’t want to seem overly ambitious, ungrateful, or like you’re “asking for more work.”
The good news is, there’s a way to do it that feels natural, and positions you as proactive, not pushy.
Here’s the mindset shift: you’re not asking for a favor; you’re initiating a partnership in growth.
When done right, it tells your leader, “I’m invested in doing my best work here, and I’d love your support in making that happen.”
Here are a few simple scripts you can adapt for your next email or conversation:
1. Asking for a stretch project
Subject: Exploring new opportunities for growth
Hi [Name],
I’ve really enjoyed [specific project or responsibility] and feel ready to take on a challenge that helps me build on those skills.
Are there any upcoming projects where I could contribute in a larger capacity, especially in [area of interest or skill you want to develop]?
I’d love to keep growing in ways that add value to the team.
Thanks,
Why it works: It’s specific, positive, and focuses on contribution not entitlement.
2. Asking for mentorship or guidance
Subject: Seeking your perspective on [topic/skill/project]
Hi [Name],
I’ve been working on strengthening my [specific skill or area] and really admire how you approach [relevant quality or project].
If you’re open to it, I’d love to learn from your experience, perhaps through a short chat or shadowing you on a future project.
I know your time is valuable, so even a few insights would mean a lot.
Thanks for considering,
Why it works: It’s respectful of their time and genuine about your intentions.
3. Following up after a “yes”
Subject: Excited to get started
Thanks again for the opportunity to work on [project] / connect for mentorship.
I’d love to make the most of this experience. Would you be open to a quick chat about expectations and goals before we begin?
Why it works: It shows initiative and ensures alignment from the start.
The key is to make your ask clear, intentional, and connected to value for you and for the organization.
Growth rarely just happens by accident. Most of the time, it begins with a simple, well-worded email that says, “I’m ready for more.”
So what’s one opportunity you could ask for this week? The kind that helps you grow, stretch, and step closer to the work you want to be doing?
Until next time…
Mal
Founder, The Ideas Accelerator
Helping you grow your career with strategic insight and smarter tools.